Do opposites attract? How often do you see weird couples like a guy/girl dating someone who is boring with no sense of humor ?

Genetic opposite. Evolution want us to be with somebody very different from us, this lead to something call “Genetic opposite influence.” It is found that human can better appreciate each other’s strength and accept each other’s short coming, when there are greater genetic opposite between two people. This even exist among platonic friendships. For example, Barack Obama and Joe Biden.

Instead, most compatible couples ended up break up or divorce, because, a lack of genetic opposite. People find it hard to appreciate each other’s positive trades and accept each other’s flaws, when genetic too similar. This is also why your mom will never be proud of you. So, most highly compatible couple ended up getting divorce. Most couples that last the long run, are mostly very different people. They usually only got a few critical things in common and can bond over that. But, in most other aspects, they are very different people and need to adjust. But, there is an old saying “When you love your job, it isn’t work.” The same is applicable to relationhip, because of a strong real relationship connection, it isn’t work for them. On the other hand, most compatible couple let few minor things drive each other nuts.

Hence, this is the reality of the so call “opposite attract.”

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This is why most couples that can last the long run are “not compatible.” Our western society over oriented towards committed relationship (boyfriend/girlfriend term or husband and wife term) over real relationship (love or infatuation), instead of real relationship over committed relationship. To a certain degree we are even anti real relationship, e.g. Christian value think lust is a sin. Modern feminists are coming up with their theory of Nice Guys and Bad Boys saying “Guys willing to commit are great guys treating women well (Nice Guys) and Guys that won’t commit are jerks treating women like crap! (Bad Boy)” This got a lot of criticism from real feminism academic. For example, what if the guy willing to give you a wedding ring is a wife beater? Or “If you dump a girl after you got bored it is treating women like crap!” (Translation: If you are dating a girl that you are not interest in, you keep leading her on, otherwise it is treating women like crap!) This is why most girls prefer guys in the Bad Boy category. They want something real and most dating expert encourage guys to feel free to be what our culture call a Bad Boy, Fuck Boy or Chad, if this is our nature. (Providing you are not actually hurting people of course, e.g. you don’t drug a girl to get laid. Interestingly, in the real world it be guys in the Nice Guy category that will do that. It is found most in the Nice Guy category are the real assholes. Because, people that casually commit don’t take commitment seriously and those are more likely to be psychopath or socialpath. And most girls’ experience also be the same, the so call Nice Guys are the real assholes and the Bad Boys are the normal ones, even if they are not all great guys.)

In culture oriented towards committed relationship, that will be Middle East and the west, we see the highest rate of divorce and domestic violence. Interestingly, the west got higher rate of domestic violence compare to the middle east. Because, the Middle East marry their cousin a lot. So, cousin connection replace romantic love connection and decrease the chance of violence. The problem is that the Middle East got a lot of retard children today, because of that and part of the reason why it is so poor. Culture oriented towards real relationship over committed relationship got much lower divorce and domestic violence rate. This is also what we see in East Asia. East Asian culture is very Bad Boy oriented. As for the high rate of Asian girls dating white guys, what is going on is due to the Swinger Culture of the 1960s and 1970s and Hollywood going global. It is similar to why girls today are all going crazy for K-pop stars. But, this sort of feeling is just a tempory passion. It is not meant to last the long run. Similar to the honeymood stage of a relationship or one night stand. Some people are just not suited to go further. For example, during the 60s to early 2000s where the fed of having a white boyfriend is cool, the rate of white guys and Asian woman marriage, never exceed 2:1 higher compare to the opposite way around, despite the dating rate exceed 10:1 the opposite way around. Now with college kids today where the rate of white guys dating Asian women drop dramatically (due to traditional western value is committed relationship over real relationship and in post Swinger Culture era it is returning to that. So, girls that are born further after the Swinger Culture, are just not that interest in white guys.) and the rate of white girls dating Asian guys increasingly dramatically (and you can really see the difference, especially on college campus. I live near my old college campus and you see more and more white girls dating Asian guys and less and less Asian girls dating one guys each semester. Even I must admit having the feeling. I often go back to the college cafe for a coffee in the afternoon after getting all my work done in the morning. These days, you are literally hot among college girls just because you are Asian. You can really feel the difference. I am 40 years old and I tell the girl and the girls that is only 18 or 19 don’t care that I am an old man, it is crazy) But, the actual marriage rate. we can assume in this current culture where Asian are getting hot due to K-pop, and other Asian media going global through internet and streaming service and Hollywood is now on the decline. The actual marriage rate between Asian men and white women will never exceed 2:1. Even if the dating rate might eventually reach 10:1, until the fed is over. Most of those girls most likely still going to marry a white guy, eventually.

Anyway, we are getting way off topic. Opposite attract is due to genetic opposite, the greater genetic opposite the better you can appreciate each other’s strength and accept each other’s weakness. Therefore, romantic love can better develop. Without sufficient genetic opposite, it most of the time can at most be suited as one night stands or it is not meant to last after the honeymood stage. If you choose committed relationship over real relationship, you are likely to be in loveless marriage and even toxic and abusive marriage. On the other hand, real relationships are not necessarily in need of a commitment, what our culture call a Bad Boy or Bad Girl. Compatibility is about committed relationship, hoping by having more in common will make the relationship easier. But, it usually won’t work. Just because you are compatible and have much in common doesn’t equal you got actual real connection.

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In romantic relationship, two people can better accept each other’s short coming and appreciate each other’s strength when there is that great level of genetic opposite and therefore, increase the chance of sexual attraction and friendship to emerge. Romantic love is a neuropsychology, where sexual attraction turn friends into something more. This is why most long term healthy relationship started as (1) friendship or (2) similar to Charlie and Barney from Two and a Half Men and How I Met Your Mother, thinking with your penis and (3) then later develop into something more.